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3 Steps to Stop Feeling Stuck and “Say YES to What’s Next”

November 12, 2014

First off, WOW, because I haven’t posted anything in almost four months which is extremely relevant and very “meta” to this post. Because today we’ll talk about BEING STUCK. And clearly, I have been.

I’ve had at least a dozen ideas. Check these out:




Have you ever had a billion ideas of how to fix a problem or change your life or get it together but get can’t any of them off the ground? Do you ruminate endlessly and then become so exhausted that you have to take a nap or a sick day (or a vacation)?

You’re probably STUCK. Just like me.

Yep, it’s happening to me right now. Clearly it’s been going on a while but I hadn’t quite noticed. Except that I’m exhausted ALL THE TIME and that’s not normal. By the way, here’s a fantastic little read from Elephant Journal on being exhausted all the time and what you can do about it.

It’s time for me to snap out of it, so here’s what I’m going to do. See if these might work for you too.


1. Fess up and go public.

The first step is admitting you’re stuck (or sad or bored or fat or upset or sick). Say it out loud. Point out the pink elephant in the room. Go ahead and admit it “I’M STUCK!!!” And then go tell someone else. Your friend, your therapist, your dog. It doesn’t matter who – just saying it aloud makes the pink elephant disappear from the room. And what’s left? Much, MUCH more space for good stuff.

2. Gather the troops.

The worst idea you’ll ever have next is “I really need to sit and figure this out on my own.” After all, this is what you’ve been doing for the past 18 months and look where it’s gotten you. There’s a reason why there are 7 billion people on this planet – we’re supposed to help each other. So call in your troops, whoever is on your team and ask them to sit with you, listen to your ideas and wishes and help you get unstuck. Pay someone money if you have to (keep in mind that a professional’s opinion is less biased than your sister’s). I’m talking about ANYONE who has helped you in the past including

  • friends, family, colleagues
  • therapists, coaches, trainers, consultants, mentors
  • hair stylists, manicurists, bikini waxers
  • doctors, lawyers, financial managers
  • massage therapists, match makers, bartenders
  • bosses, employees, colleagues

and don’t forget your yoga teacher.

Pick the best team based on the problem you’re addressing.

3. Say YES to something. Anything.

YesMermaidYou’ve had a billion ideas and because you’re so smart, they’re probably all very good. Let your troops help you pick ONE and start on it. NOW. You’ll never know before you try if it’s the “right one” and to be honest, it doesn’t matter. What you’re looking for, is a booster shot of energy to get you unstuck. Picking one idea and putting it into action will give you just that. Not to mention the confidence boost from making a decision. Trust me. TRUST ME.

Sigh, just writing this post is making me feel better already.

If you want to start feeling better already too, let’s get on a call this week. Email me to set it up, I’m ready for you.

Rebecca Bly is a wellness coach and yoga teacher in Washington, DC. She believes in achieving balance, strength, peace and clarity beyond the yoga mat and helps people who are stuck to do just that.

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